Kiera is one of our readers from Germany. She's been helping me some projects, and I asked her to write her viewpoint of the show as she sees it.
I have left it in her English-so that I would not tamper with her thoughts. I think she did an excellent job, and it's extremely interesting how certain emotions show through in any language.
Here's Kiera's take on Robyn Sullivan Brown:
I also explain to you how I came to watch the "Sister Wives", because I think that’s an important part of “Why I think of Robyn -what I think of Robyn”.
As I mentioned before I live in Germany and I started watching "Sister Wives" because my friend is from America. His Dad has started to believe in the “principal” about 10 years ago at which time my friend was almost 19. I don´t know many details, because he doesn´t like to talk about it much, but what I know is that he disagrees strongly with the choice of his father, and hasn´t talked to him for pretty much the same time (10 years). His mother doesn´t like all of this either, but she has decided to stay with her husband nevertheless.
Anyways, we like to talk about religion, life in general and philosophical things and our point of view often diverge. When he first told me why he wouldn´t talk to his father, I understood his point of view. But on the other hand, I was like, well, it´s his choice how stupid it may be, and if he wants to live that way and doesn´t harm anybody, he should be free to do what he wants to do. I also thought that the mother of my friend is old enough to decide what to do and what not to do. And, to my great shame, I also have to admit that, because the father of my friend is quite wealthy, I suspected that she stays with him for security/comfort reasons. So one day he told me “There is this show you have to watch, it is about plural marriage and it is a train wreck”.
I started watching Sisterwives and although I was constantly wondering why any woman would agree to marry a man like Kody, not to mention sharing him, and although Meri seemed to be unhappy, I quite enjoyed it.
And then came Robyn.
I did not like her from the Beginning. The scene right at the start of their dating process, where the two of them were sitting in this Mexican Restaurant? She was smiling like a fourteen year old girl that had never had a boyfriend before, not to speak of three kids. They can talk about modesty all day long, but the looks they gave each other and their body language? Holy guacamole. To me, that is even worse than sticking each other tonges at their tonsils. And it´s not just that she was basically flirting the pants off of a married man, she also knew there was the camera around filming it. Let´s talk about cruelty for one second.
She knew there was a camera around.
She knew he was married.
She knew he had kids (14 or how many at this time?)
She knew there were jealousy issues.
But she didn´t give a shit.
Instead she wined shortly before, how hard it is for her, doing this with the knowledge that she will hurt the other women. Not because she felt actual compassion for them, no, because SHE has to hurt a friend. Because it´s all, always, about HER. The whole wide world is her stage.
I knew from that point on, that woman is missing some needles on her fir.
And it became even worse. With that many kids, and one special needs kid of her own, you would assume that she has enough to do, to not worry constantly just about herself. Also that she has some kind of maturity given the fact that she is not fourteen anymore, divorced and has three kids.
But no. Not Robyn.
She has instrumentalized her whining to perfection. Most of the time it´s not even real crying. There are no real tears! She´s just making a “cry-face” and starts to whine with her voice.
I noticed a few times when one of the other women is crying, she starts to pretend to also cry. I wondered a few times if she does that because she thinks she should show some fake empathy for her fellow sister wives (to show how superior and selfless she is in contrast to them) or if she just does it because she can´t let anyone steal her victim role? I´m still indecisive about that.
Despite her constantly whining I really think that she is the most cold hearted and manipulative of all the women. At the beginning I really believed in her neediness and over emotional being. But that changed. I don´t base this opinion on the birth episode, because as you and some other has revealed, this was probably staged anyway.
I base it on the fact that she only shows emotion when they are of use for her.
One example: Remember the scene when they moved her home near to the House of Kody and Madison was helping her and they were talking about whether or not Madison would want sister wives? The two of them talked about that like some other people talk about whether or not to buy another loaf of bread for the weekend. But when Robyn was interviewed alone, she shed a tear about how much she loves Madison blablabla. Keeping in mind what she said later on, about undeveloped brains and how she would like to have the children enter the principal, doesn´t that seem weird to you?
Another example: Robyn crying about Dayton leaving her to live with his dad. Despite the stupidity of expecting a family to blend on its own by simply jamming them together/ doesn´t that seem weird when you keep in mind that she doesn´t want Meri to suffer “empty nest syndrome” and therefore is more than willing to shove off one or more of her kids?
There are a lot of other things were her coldness shine through and some emotions would not be wasted. Her being insensitive to Hunter, although she knows very well how he is struggling, for example.
Or the need to have a baby of her own, despite the fact that the already existing kids didn’t had the time to grow together yet and therefore rocking the boat of this family even more.
But I want to end my summary on “Why I think Robyn is an ice cold Snow queen “on one last thing which is the epitome of cruelty for me:
Her offering to be Meri´s surrogate. I mean, really?
She knows about Kody´s offer of IVF to Meri and that Meri doesn´t want that.
She even was so “sensible” to tell Meri her pregnancy first. (Which, in my opinion, was another attempt to show how selfless and superior she is and not an act of real compassion).
She knows that the “children thing” is Meri´s weak point.
But hey, she could not miss this one chance in a lifetime, to show all of the other wives which wife is going to me the Number One in the future!
Because none of the other women could ever outnumber that.
Not Christine, no matter how devoted she is to Kody and the Children.
Not Janelle, no matter how many money she will earn in the future.
Not Meri, no matter how supportive she will be to Kody or any new wife to come.
That was such a great stunt; I was really impressed of her at that point. Not only will she be pregnant again, which is obviously something Kody likes, no, she will solidify her role in the family once and for all time. Meri would have to be forever grateful to her and no matter how much she rocks the boat of the family, Christine and Janelle would be unable to say anything bad about her without looking like jealous bad persons themselves.
The only more selfless thing to do would be to catch a bullet for Kody. But I doubt that anyone would want to waste a bullet on him.
My conclusion of this whole family situation and Robyn is, as hard and rude as this may sound, Robyn is a home wrecker.
I don´t want to judge the Browns based on the decision to live a plural marriage. That´s still fine for me, if all the women do it on their own free will and even if they are unhappy to a certain point, because in my opinion “free will” also means to be able to choose to be unhappy. That´s their decision not mine. But if there are kids involved I think there needs to be a line which should not be crossed.
These kids were used to their family, as unusual as it was with the three moms. This entity was all they knew, so any new wife would feel like a mistress to them.
I am blaming all four of the adults, but especially Robyn. After all, she has chosen to be a part of this family, despite the fact that she knew about all of the emotional problems that this would bring into her life.
My feeling is, because she already had an unhappy marriage and separated her children from their father (and he may be as bad as she always tells, but he is still their father and I bet they love him no matter what) she should have done better for her own children. Patch work families are hard enough without having four adults as “new parents” and more than a dozen new “siblings”.
She could also make the situation for all of them easier, if only she would thread more carefully.
I don´t know if I believe her having a real crush on Kody. All I see is a woman who throw herself on an already established family, not giving a cent if she squashes anybody doing so. And if she has to manipulate to stay in that family, she will not hesitate to do so.
Well, that was a long rant, I hope you understand what I mean despite the language barrier ;)
After all, I can understand my friend now. Having a possessive new mom coming into your family.. bleh.
What are your thoughts about Robyn and her fake tears? Do you agree with Kiera? Do you feel they are real tears? Let us know!