Been watching TLC's 'Sister Wives'?Have you been surprised how loving, and normal, they seem? Would you be surprised to learn there are many non-Mormon Christians who have felt God prompting them to live this way? Maybe you are curious and trying to figure out if this lifestyle truly can work. Or maybe you are a believer in Christ and you are witnessing all of the practical benefits but still trying to figure out how to make sense of this in light of the Bible. But you are asking yourself “Does the Bible, and it's Author, accept this?" Read on.
In the show Kody Brown makes this statement: “Love is to be multiplied not divided.” The idea of marriage, or a union with a male and female, transcends all religious, cultural, and ethnic boundaries. People from every nation or sphere of the world join together and partner with one another in order to build a family. More than 80% of cultures throughout history have also practiced some level of polygamy.
What does God say?But the real question is: does Jesus Christ, the Lord of the universe, approve of this type of family where one man joins with more than one woman? We at Biblical Families, an evangelical organization dedicated to historical Christianity, see that the Bible teaches and approves of this type of idea of love multiplying. Both the OT and NT teach that God is honored by this type of lifestyle.
Throughout the OT many of God’s holy men lived a lifestyle where they multiplied God’s love. Men like Moses the writer of the first five books of the Bible had two women at the same time in a union, Abraham, who had at least two and maybe three at the same time, Jacob who had four in a union, and numerous others like Gideon, King David, and King Solomon. Likewise, in one place in the OT God even presents himself as in a union with two wives (Ezekiel 23:1-5,7,11). ***Bloggers note, I DO NOT believe this is what is being said there...Comments? What do you think it means?
The NT never alters this idea of love. The theme of love is carried forth by Jesus Christ whose teachings along with the apostles verified this lifestyle as holy, normal, and to be accepted. The God-Man, Jesus Christ, even represents the three types of lifestyles in the Bible. He lived for awhile in a celibate condition, he then died, arose again, and then joined himself to the first church ever birthed in history, the Jerusalem church, which represents a monogamous relationship, and then as other church bodies were birthed he joined or united with them thus displaying a love relationship or union with those multiple members that make up his one body, or family (see 1 Cor. 12:-20,27; Eph. 5:25; 1 Cor. 11:2).
How can this work?So how can one family have multiple wives in it and there be peace, harmony, joy, satisfaction, and the blessings of the Lord in that family?
Here at Biblical Families we are teaching and sharing with people how this is possible. In the Christian faith this is not only possible but a very real testimony of the power of grace and the Holy Spirit working in the lives of those that believe. As the Bible says, where the Spirit of the Lord is there will be the fruit of the Spirit which is “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control, against such things there is no law (Gal. 5:22).
So what is the answer to having a holy, harmonious, and God honoring marriage? The real issue is not how many wives are in the family. The deeper issue is and the focus the Bible has is upon the hearts of the members in the family. Is the head of the family, the man truly following Christ, loving like Christ, and leading as Christ leads? Is the lady or ladies under that man’s leadership following in the way we the saints follow Christ who loves his church? 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 describes the ultimate issue: “Love is patient and kind, love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.” So explore the website links here, examine some of the teaching articles for some in depth biblical instruction, and make some new friends who may encourage you on towards a life of faith, hope, and love (1 Cor. 13:13) in the Lord who loves you and died on the cross in order to give you true life (John 10:10), a life of peace, joy, and contentment in Him!
We want to be clear: we are not Mormons, nor Muslims. We are Christians. We come from many different church backgrounds. We have no interest in underage or coercive marriages, or in any cult-like groups. We want to read the Bible for what it really SAYS, not what we have been incorrectly taught that it SHOULD say. We recognize that when half of all “Christian marriages” fail, and that rampant divorce and serial monogamy is considered preferable to actually following God’s Word, there is a problem.
**** I believe to each his own, but I don't believe that plural marriages always worked out so well in the bible, nor do they mention it says several times one man...one woman. Mark me if I am wrong, but there are no plural marriages in the New Testament. Wasn't it to populate the earth? Could it serve a purpose now? It's not for me, but what do you think?